"Are your girls' home schooled? They are very bright / well spoken / motivated / nicely behaved / confident talking with strangers..."
"Oh I wish we could do that - my child keeps asking to be home schooled but I work/my husband/wife wouldn't agree..."
As soon as you meet someone and the "which school?" question arises, then these following are the usual questions that follow. This post is the lengthy answer to all of those curious people I meet who ask lots of questions, or indeed don't ask even though they are busting to...I do think it is lovely that other people are so interested in what we do. It tells me that education is in a period of enormous flux and change.
And this is where I lay out the answer to the question "why do we homeschool?"
Now to the FAQs, those questions you may always have wanted to ask but were too polite to mention:
I could never homeschool my kids - are you a really patient person?
Haha, I do enjoy this question! I am not patient...in fact I don't really like routine, walk straight into fear, jump into change in a second, and am a very emotionally LOUD person.
Before being faced with the inevitable prospect of homeschooling, I was always the person saying "oh no - I could never do that - I am too selfish!".
Turns out that being an impulsive, creative, volatile optimist are qualities that work for a home educator. Well, for our family.
I do have good boundaries though, and I think that is a saving grace - actually much more important than "patience".
I am a ridiculous idealist and looooooove to learn new things. I adore our girls and that is a major motivator - we were desperate and our alternative to homeschool was moving to a city and trying to find the perfect school. Patient? No. Kind? Yes. Motivated? Extremely. Satisfied? Extraordinarily.
How do you manage without working outside home?
We live cheaply. Very cheaply.
We have our own chickens for eggs, and try to grow lots of our own fruit and vegetables. Mike does all of our repairs, renovations, garden maintenance etc. We are also older parents so by the time kids arrived we had the big stuff. We drink a tiny amount of alcohol, don't have gym memberships, and shop on sale (and secondhand) for clothes.
We do however eat wonderfully yummy food, and don't ever hold back on art materials or books!
How do you make your kids do what you want?
Another curious question! As parents you are constantly negotiating, guiding, dealing, cajoling or just plain demanding that your child eats, drinks, dresses, does as they are asked etc. Homeschool is just more of the same, really.
How do you motivate your kids?
Maybe this is the wrong question - maybe it should be "how do I motivate myself?". I have noticed that when I am low in energy and a bit bored, so too are the kids.
It is important to listen to yourself - are you putting off teaching a bit of work because it is going to encounter resistance? Finding it hard to do more of the same day in day out?
Re-evaluate your ideas of "must dos". For me, at this point, that is 30 minutes of maths every school day, independent spelling work, and a read-aloud with narration. In a few months that will be different, as spelling gets up to speed it may be reading your favourite factual book independently, drawing every day, coming up with a red herring example every day to trick mum and dad....
Naturally this "must do work" is dispensed with quickly so it is on to the juicy stuff like art, science, games, geography, mapping, living maths, grammar, and most importantly the "Mama, I really want to..." projects (like rat dissection, seed sowing, Ancient Chinese warrior making, cupcake cooking).
Resistance is useless (sorry - big Dr Who fans around here)...well, actually it is quite useful as an indicator of "what is really going on". We had a spate of resistance to independent work, teeth grindingly slow mind numbing slowness. It made me take another look - can she actually do the work? Am I skipping the praise where she is lacking confidence? Is it actually just boring work and not advanced enough? Too visual? Not spatial enough?
My child is really social and loves to run around. What about socialisation?
See this post. In essence, hang out with people you like. Find a homeschool group that has like-minded people, do "after school" activities.
Are you a teacher?
No...well, I have taught adults design and typography, but I don't have a teaching qualification (unlike the 6 teachers out of 8 of my immediate family members).
How do you know what to teach them?
Do you like to shop?
That is what I liken it to. I love to shop for books, ideas, galleries, art materials, stationery, different philosophies, languages, cultures, ideas.
I go browsing, including the state requirements for homeschool registration (see here), do lots of thinking, reading, asking other home schoolers on email lists and forums about specific bits of curriculum, assemble a loose mind-map in my journal, then go actual shopping.
Though there is an easier way. Mike and I now have an understanding, called "buy it if you like it because you may never see it again". This works, but requires more weaving together of learning plans, and patience is required. For example, I found a great paper model book on Ancient Greece, and clicking the series link led me to model books for the Vikings, Medieval Castle, Victorian buildings. I purchased those also and filed them in my "exterior brain" box as we follow a loose Classical structure and won't get to them for months, years...
I am sooooo excited though, already, and that is the secret. Never teach with materials that leave you bored...it will bore your kids too.
Most importantly, I try to follow the girls' lead and track down materials that suit their learning styles and interests (the instant nature of the library is best for satisfying these desires though - most of my accumulation of resources is a magpie collection and not everything is there just yet).
Are you worried you will miss something?
Yes, and no.
Yes because I would like the girls to move seamlessly through our plan, and sometimes resources follow a different order and we need to back up a bit and teach something else first - but this is missing something that you then fix, which is fine.
No, because we have lots of contact with bricks-and-mortar schooled kids and I see how shallow their learning is (except in testing - go Naplan!).
You won't homeschool for high school will you?
Well, yes, because adolescence isn't a reason for denying our girls the best education they could have.
Isn't it really expensive?
It is available for all budgets - thank you Internet, thank you libraries, thank you community galleries and museums...
It must be easier with girls - do you think boys would be harder to homeschool?
Hehe - try living with our two over-excitable firecrackers. I think gender is irrelevant here.
Are you in a homeschool group that gets together a lot?
Yes, and that is really lovely : ) but not essential.
My child wouldn't suit homeschool because a) b) c)...
This is my blog, so I get my chance to stand on the soap-box.
I truly believe that every child would benefit from a good homeschool education - but it isn't the right thing for every parent.
It is as simple as the maths. I believe that the ratio of having 1 teacher/educator to 2 kids (or 1:3, 1:4, or 1:6) is obviously better than 1:25.
Also, as a psychodynamic therapist whose work with adult clients always involved exploring their relationships with their parents, I know that all children need love and attention from their parents - real day-to-day commitment.
For those parents who are not financially able, or emotionally able, or simply not willing, homeschool is a poor choice.
But if you are truly interested/fascinated in homeschooling but are unsure about how to make it work, I suggest you try to re-evaluate your life. It may be as straightforward as choosing a smaller house, smaller mortgage, less $ pressure, working part time, living simply in a country town rather than a high pressure expensive city...you truly can make it work.
Your children are only at home with you for a short time - all the better to walk the educational path together now while you all can.
What are your FAQs?